GROUPIE LUV!

You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv!

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them. Whether it’s because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them?

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible."

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love.

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a plutonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not!

There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. 

I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more.

~Be Safe & Much Luv~

XoXo

IS YOUR WOMAN CHEATING?

Fellas: Do you have a feeling your woman is cheating on you? Most of the time there are blogs, and advice columns out there for women, but what about the men? Today I want to focus on helping out all the fellas.... I feel its time for the men to have some feedback this time around! The world would like us to believe that all men are dogs, but I personally dont agree. There are men out there that are sensitive, compassionate, and loving. Men can get hurt in a relationship just as much as a woman can. Lets look at some signs of a cheating....WOMAN!

1. A sudden loss of interest- She used to enjoy going out in public with you and your friends, but now all of a sudden she just wants to stay in the house. Why? Is there something she wants to hide?

2. Change in physical appearance- Your lady used to dress average on a daily basis, but now shes wearing new dresses, new perfume, and all of a sudden her hair, and make-up are flawless! Why the sudden change? She says she just wants to start looking better for you? Hmmm yeah ok!

3. Strange phone calls- Is your girl starting to get phone calls late at night? Or all of a sudden her phone is on vibrate, and then when she goes to answer it she leaves the room or goes outside to answer the call. *side eye* Why? Whats going on? Could it be her "Boyfriend No. 2"

4. Missed Calls- Every time you go to call her she is suddenly unavailable, and when she calls you back she always has some lame excuse like, "My phone had bad reception so I didn't get the call" or "I forgot my phone over my girlfriends house" Hmmm yeah ok! *side eye*

5. Secrecy- Does it seem like all of a sudden your girlfriend got a new job working for the F.B.I? When you ask her questions about her day, or what she has planned for the weekend she starts giving you short strange answers. Woman are generally smooth in covering their tracks when it comes to cheating, but if you know your woman well enough you can pick up on her mood changes... you just need to pay attention.

6. Sexual Appetite- Does your girlfriend seem to have a loss of sexual energy? She used to want to have sex all the time, but now she could care less? OR She has the same sexual appetite, but now she is trying new an extra freaky tricks in the bedroom that she has never tried before? Hmm.. Could her new man be teaching her something that your not?

7. Spending more time with her girlfriends- Is your partner going over her girlfriends house a lot more all of a sudden? Or she has she met some new friends, that she wants to spend her time with? Could it really be a guy? Hmm (Also be aware of the Cover Girl) This is a girlfriend who always seems to come to your partners side to justify her sudden change in Social Networking! *side eye*

8. Increase in Arguments- Is she arguing with you more than usual, and then storming out the house? Are the arguments about small meaningless things, that usually didn't bother her before? Could it be an excuse to leave and spend some more time with her boo? Hmm Watch out!

9. Working Late- Is your girlfriend telling you she needs to spend more time at the office? All of a sudden she has projects that require her to stay extra long hours, and maybe even spend the night at a hotel or girlfriends house? Hmm yeah ok!

10. Guilty Conscious- Sudden gifts come out of no where, and for no particular reason. Candle light dinners, or trips out to eat just because. Sometimes she could just want to be nice, but sometimes it could be signs of a guilty conscious!

---Although these signs can go either way for a man or a woman, I wanted to take sometime to focus on the fellas since they always get neglected!---- XoXo MizzBlaze

MIND GAMES

Has someone ever accused you of playing, "Mind Games" ?? Or have you felt that someone has played "Mind Games" with you in the past? If so lets talk about why this happens, and also discuss some of the causes behind it.

It has been said that when you first meet someone you don’t really meet them... you meet their "Representative" I.E. the person they want you to meet, the person they want to present to you. As time goes on however you get to see the real man/woman behind the mask. The question is why do people play games? Why not be real from the start, don’t they understand the truth always comes out? The answer unfortunately is NO! Insecurity, Past Commitment Issues, and Fear causes allot of people from opening up and being themselves, especially in the beginning of the relationship, and therefore putting up a "Front" is natural for them. It’s somewhat of a protection or barrier against being hurt.

Some people play mind games for different reasons however. Mind Games can be used not just as a barrier but as a mechanism to deceive and manipulate for someone’s own personal gain. In some situations mind games are played to build a reputation as a player, or playette, pimp or gigolo. For whatever the reason mind games are still wrong because they give a false perception of the real person, and they usually end up causing pain, and frustration for the other party/'(s) in involved.

So now that we have gone over the reasoning behind these games lets look at how to decipher the games from the truth! It has been said before, and I’m going to say it again... “Actions Speak Louder Than Words!” If you are unsure of someone’s true intentions watch their actions, and not their words. See if they can back up everything they are verbally expressing to you. Do their actions appear sincere? If not you may have to question their true objective.

The second way to see past all the games and lies it to have “Patience.” Never rush into anything too fast because it can cause you to be blinded from the truth. Take your time, sit back and WATCH. Keep your eyes, and ears wide open. Time will tell if the person you are with is playing games, or if they truly mean what they say.
XoXo Written by, MizzBlaze

BOW WOW SAYS IM NOT SUPERHEADS BABY DADDY!

So it seems there has been a buzz lately regarding Karrine Steffans's pregnancy. Everyone is wondering "Who's The Baby’s Daddy!!!" Honestly it could be practically anyone! LOL For some reason however, rapper/actor "Bow wow" has been the main focus point around this dramatic fiasco! Lucky him right? Well anyway Bow wow has released a statement via Mix Tape regarding his affiliation with Karrine, and the rumors surrounding him fathering her child check it out.


"On My Momma" - by Bow Wow

I hear these rumors about Superhead
Boy y'all funny,
I wrapped it up like a Christmas gift
I ain't no dummy--Bow Wow Mix Tape 2008

DO YOU COMMUNICATE ENOUGH?

This message is for all the new couples. Congratulations! You have successfully passed your first 6 month or 1 year anniversary and things are still going strong. Of course you’ve had some bumps in the road, but love has gotten you over them. Around this time you might start to feel laid back and comfortable in your situation. Ladies start wearing their head scarf’s to bed, and guys start opening up about their feelings somewhat. This critical time can definitely make or break your future. One major problem in a new relationship is communication! This is a necessity. If you want your love to continue you need to talk. I know your thinking, “I talk to my man/woman everyday. I can communicate.” Well everyone says that, but unfortunately talking in a general sense is not enough.

A question for the ladies... “What do you tell your girlfriends about your man? Do you ever complain about him? Do you ever bit** about the annoying things he says or does? If the answer is yes, you need help communicating in your relationship. I know you probably think its ok to vent to your girlfriends because that’s what they’re there for, but honestly it’s not recommended to discuss relationship problems with friends. It’s ok to have one main person you confine in for advice from time to time, but your best friend should be your partner. You should be able to turn to him for direction and guidance. Not every man is good at giving advice, but your partner should at least listen and support you. He should be your confidant and your rock. If he’s not giving you all you need, then you may need to question if he’s the right one for you.
Fellas....Do you find yourself talking to other females about the problems you have with your girl? Do you ever look at another woman and think, damn I wish my lady would be more like that! Well if you answered yes to either one of these questions, you need help communicating in your relationship. Don’t look to another woman to make up for what your partner is lacking. If your girl is not giving you all you need then you have to speak up and tell her! I’ve talked to so many men who say they’re woman is not freaky enough, creative enough, or fun enough. After I patiently listened to all their concerns and issues I ask them, “Have you addressed this issue with your woman?” and most of the time they say no because they don’t want to hear her complain or they don’t want to hurt her feelings. To all the men out there please listen up! “We Can’t Read Your Mind!” Men and woman have different ways of communicating, but that doesn’t mean we can’t talk.

Rule #1 Never assume anything. Don’t think your girl/guy is gonna blow up about something when you have never even brought the problem to their attention.

Rule #2 Think before you speak. (Men) Yes, woman can be sensitive so choose your words wisely. The most important thing to remember is you can’t avoid a topic because you’re afraid to speak your mind. If you ignore the issue it’s not going to disappear, so deal with it and move on. (Ladies) Men have feelings too. Don’t ever compare your man to anyone else. If your partner is getting on your nerves take a few breaths and calmly tell them how you feel. Remember no man likes a whining woman, so make sure you try to release your feelings and be done with it! Erase the board and start fresh.

Rule #3 Monitor Your Anger! If your partner opens up and makes a suggestion to you, take the constructive criticism with ease not anger. Remember your mate loves you, and it’s ok to make changes. Life is about growth and progression. If you get angry they will only go to someone else to vent, and that will draw a wedge between your relationship.

Rule # 4 Little things mean a lot. After you have a sit down talk with your partner about an issue make sure you always end with words of love and encouragement. End the discussion by praising all the things you love about them! This is very very important. Think of exciting bonding activities to do together every week. This will make your relationship stronger. You can make fun card games for one another with questions your afraid to ask, write out a poem stating all the beautiful things you love about your mate, play karaoke together, and serenade each other with sweet love songs, etc.

Rule #5 Last but not least....Constantly find new ways to explore your LOVE. It takes hard work to maintain a healthy relationship, and you get out what you put in.