GROUPIE LUV!

You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv!

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them. Whether it’s because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them?

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible."

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love.

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a plutonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not!

There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. 

I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more.

~Be Safe & Much Luv~

XoXo

IS YOUR WOMAN CHEATING?

Fellas: Do you have a feeling your woman is cheating on you? Most of the time there are blogs, and advice columns out there for women, but what about the men? Today I want to focus on helping out all the fellas.... I feel its time for the men to have some feedback this time around! The world would like us to believe that all men are dogs, but I personally dont agree. There are men out there that are sensitive, compassionate, and loving. Men can get hurt in a relationship just as much as a woman can. Lets look at some signs of a cheating....WOMAN!

1. A sudden loss of interest- She used to enjoy going out in public with you and your friends, but now all of a sudden she just wants to stay in the house. Why? Is there something she wants to hide?

2. Change in physical appearance- Your lady used to dress average on a daily basis, but now shes wearing new dresses, new perfume, and all of a sudden her hair, and make-up are flawless! Why the sudden change? She says she just wants to start looking better for you? Hmmm yeah ok!

3. Strange phone calls- Is your girl starting to get phone calls late at night? Or all of a sudden her phone is on vibrate, and then when she goes to answer it she leaves the room or goes outside to answer the call. *side eye* Why? Whats going on? Could it be her "Boyfriend No. 2"

4. Missed Calls- Every time you go to call her she is suddenly unavailable, and when she calls you back she always has some lame excuse like, "My phone had bad reception so I didn't get the call" or "I forgot my phone over my girlfriends house" Hmmm yeah ok! *side eye*

5. Secrecy- Does it seem like all of a sudden your girlfriend got a new job working for the F.B.I? When you ask her questions about her day, or what she has planned for the weekend she starts giving you short strange answers. Woman are generally smooth in covering their tracks when it comes to cheating, but if you know your woman well enough you can pick up on her mood changes... you just need to pay attention.

6. Sexual Appetite- Does your girlfriend seem to have a loss of sexual energy? She used to want to have sex all the time, but now she could care less? OR She has the same sexual appetite, but now she is trying new an extra freaky tricks in the bedroom that she has never tried before? Hmm.. Could her new man be teaching her something that your not?

7. Spending more time with her girlfriends- Is your partner going over her girlfriends house a lot more all of a sudden? Or she has she met some new friends, that she wants to spend her time with? Could it really be a guy? Hmm (Also be aware of the Cover Girl) This is a girlfriend who always seems to come to your partners side to justify her sudden change in Social Networking! *side eye*

8. Increase in Arguments- Is she arguing with you more than usual, and then storming out the house? Are the arguments about small meaningless things, that usually didn't bother her before? Could it be an excuse to leave and spend some more time with her boo? Hmm Watch out!

9. Working Late- Is your girlfriend telling you she needs to spend more time at the office? All of a sudden she has projects that require her to stay extra long hours, and maybe even spend the night at a hotel or girlfriends house? Hmm yeah ok!

10. Guilty Conscious- Sudden gifts come out of no where, and for no particular reason. Candle light dinners, or trips out to eat just because. Sometimes she could just want to be nice, but sometimes it could be signs of a guilty conscious!

---Although these signs can go either way for a man or a woman, I wanted to take sometime to focus on the fellas since they always get neglected!---- XoXo MizzBlaze

HOLDING OUT

 So you met someone new and your wondering...

HOW LONG SHOULD I HOLD OUT??

Well that all depends on you, and the vibe that you’re having with the other person. When starting a new romance you should take some time to talk, and get to know each other on a mental level before you bring sex into the picture. Holding out sometimes can be frustrating especially if you are getting close with the person and you are highly attracted to them, but good things are worth the wait! So...What's the Rush?

There are plenty of things you can do romantically in the beginning of your relationship to feel the person out before you take it to the next level. The best way to keep it subtle is to stay in open spaces. Don’t spend alone time together for the first couple months if you are trying to take it slow. If you find yourself one on one with the person you may not be able to hold back, so instead do things that can build your relationship, and friendship in an open setting. You and your potential partner can go out to events that you both enjoy such as, Poetry Readings, Sporting Events, and Carnivals. 

Try not to focus on the physical, but instead grow your understanding of the other person’s likes and dislikes. What makes them tick? What annoys them the most? These are all important questions you should be asking yourself in the beginning of your courtship. When you start to learn a persons moral values, and beliefs it makes it easier to see if you want to go further with them.

The best thing about building a friendship first is the romantic stimulation that comes along with the anticipation of the wait. Every night you are thinking about how it would be to have that person in your arms, and wondering how it would be to take it to the next level with them. All the thoughts and feelings in conjunction with your discipline build for a greater experience. When you take the time to get to know someone on a mental level it makes the Sex that much more Explosive because there are true Feelings, and Passion behind the Stimulation. You are connected on a Mental, and Physical level. So Holding Out can bring much more than A Greater Understanding, it can also bring a Higher Level of Sexual Gratification. 

So there’s no need to Rush! Holding Out Is a Good Thing!

GROUPIE LUV!

You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv! 

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them.

It could be because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them? 

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible." 

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. 

Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love. 

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a platonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. 

So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not! There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. 

If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. 

I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more. 

~Be Safe & Much Luv~ XoXo

I DONT BELIEVE YOU! AND IM DONE!

So as everyone may know I am getting over my Fantasy Romance with Joe! I talk about him all the time, so anyone who watches my videos or follows me on Twitter should know who he is. *side eye* Well anyway I am sick of trying to apologize to him. It’s obvious that he has moved on and its time for me to move on too. I already deleted his number and took down his picture from my wall. I received a text from him the other night that said, "Somethings will neva change I Love you and as we move along our paths in life stay strong and beautiful be wise baby your life will blossom keep growing" So anyway I deleted that message because I'm not allowing my feelings to get involved again. I pray that he is happy, and I will always love him forever cause I’ve known him since I was 5 years old, but you snooze you lose, and I wasn’t ready when he was so I just have to except that and let him go! *sigh*

One thing I don’t agree with is the fact that he said he loves me. I honestly don’t think he knows what love is. Or is it me that doesn’t know? I guess the verdict is still out on that, but anyway I feel when you love someone you show them, whether you love them as a friend or intimately. I have friends that live all over from New York, to Miami on out to California and I talk to them on a regular basis. Our distance does not stop us from talking on the phone or keeping in touch, but every time I call Joe he hardly answers and he doesn’t call me back till months later so how can he say he loves me? I don’t think that’s love at all! I believe he cares about me deeply but loves me NO! I don’t feel he loves me. When you love someone you check on them. You call them on a regular basis to say hello or you return their phone call when they call you!

As I’m writing this I’m thinking about my best friend Hamid who is locked up in California. I say I love him but I haven’t written him in months. So how can I talk about Joe being at fault when I am also at fault too? *sigh* Well I guess sometimes when you are overcome by your own emotions, personal situations, and feelings you don’t put the people you say you care about first in your life. Sometimes you can become selfish, and even egotistical, overwhelmed by your own thoughts and feelings. I have done this myself, so I guess its wrong for me to judge someone else. In my heart I know Joe loves me but I don’t want to focus on that because It will make me confused, and I need to move past him in order for me to grow. Being stuck in the past is no way to live. If he is meant for my future then it will be, but I can’t fantasize about it anymore, because it’s not healthy. So what’s the point of saying all this.... *side eye* Well I just had to vent, and purge this out my system.

"We gotta face it there'll be times that we let each other down. And on the days that you ain't feeling me, will you be able to stick around, Cause anything worth having is worth fighting for. If we really want this thing to work We gotta go to war"  ---Avant (When It Hurts)

WHEN TO CALL IT QUITS

Has your relationship gone from this.....

To this..............


If the answer is yes, well then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship.

I spoke with a young woman this week, and she was telling me about her recent breakup. She said she was sad because her ex broke up with her so he could have more time to focus on his career. He said they still could be friends, but right now he couldn’t give her wanted she needed. For the record I don’t believe that bull-ish for a second! I feel any guy/girl who says they need space to focus on their career is holding something back. Normally you want the support of the person you love, and you welcome the encouragement that they can bring into your life. Now if that person is a hindrance because they are constantly bringing you stress then of course you will want to break up with them! But don’t say it’s because of your career plans, when honestly it's because you feel emotionally overwhelmed by their unsupportive attitude towards your goals for the future.

After I thought about her situation I responded by saying, "It sounds like there is more to the story, do you think he’s being completely honest with you?" She said yes she felt he was disclosing the whole story and she went on to explain how her ex has a busy schedule between work and school, and he spends all his free time pursuing his upcoming plans. Now what I forgot to ask the female is if she was a nagger, and if she ever found herself complaining about not having enough quality time with her partner. When a man/woman is working on obtaining their goals they need space. If you have a busy career, or a heavy workload make sure you're in a relationship with someone who understands that. If your partner is emotionally draining or too needy you will separate yourself from them in order to focus. COMMUNICATION is number 1! Not everyone can be in a relationship with someone who has a hectic schedule. However, I’m not excusing the lack of attention that you may be experiencing. When someone is important to you, you will make time for them!

On the flip side I have a male friend who is currently having problems with his woman because she feels he puts his career before their relationship. My friend claims he wants to make it work with her, but he doesn’t know what to do. I asked him if there was anyway he could involve his lady in his upcoming projects, and he said no. This is another issue, COMPROMISE! If this is someone you plan to be with for the long haul why not involve them in your plans? This way they won’t feel so neglected. Now if they don’t want to help, and they only want to complain then to hell with them! But if they genuinely just want to be in your presence, then helping you out with your goals for the future should be an honor.

In the end it’s all about finding the right one for you. Not everyone is going to fit into your lifestyle or your future. A good partner should be supportive, understanding, and compassionate. If you want to take over the world they should be right by your side cheering you on! But at the same time you have to make time for the things they love also. Support and compassion works both ways. Involve the one you love in the things that bring you joy, because it will make them feel special too. If you honestly feel your current partner doesn’t fit into your future plans then tell them so, don’t give them some stupid lame line about being too busy for a relationship. I don’t care what anybody says, you’re never too busy for LOVE! People only say things like that to avoid confrontation or an argument. The real truth is they don’t want to make time for you, and they are busy dealing with things in life that are of more importance to them.

I.E. You are no longer the person that takes priority in their life, they’ve lost interest in making things work with you! Again, if you really love someone and you genuinely want to be with them you will find ways to make it work despite the hardships you may endure.

If you don't want the truth, don't ask MizzHotBlaze!!!