Many people ask me why I'm single, and honestly there is no simple answer. I have given so many guys chances recently, and in the end it was a big FAIL! I'm not trying to say all the guys I ever dated were bad, I'm speaking on the last couple of years. I did have several Good Men in my life, and when I had them it was me who messed up. I was not mature enough to handle a serious relationship back then, and I think a part of me was afraid that the relationship was too good to be true, so I purposely sabotaged it.
Now that I have matured and I'm ready to be open, and take a chance at Love it seems all I meet are lazy guys who want Sex with no commitment or Sex without putting in any work at all. No courtship, no dinners, no being there when your car breaks down, just Sex and then they go about their business. Maybe I'm not getting out enough or maybe I need to travel more because lately I've been working a lot and I haven't had the chance to move around, but Damn it seems the older I get the worse my selection of "Men" become.
I know I am partially to blame because I have not always laid down "The Rules" AKA said exactly what I expected or what I wanted. I just hung out with them, and did the whole independent woman routine. My mom raised me to never depend on a man so I rarely asked for help. A part of me thought it would make me look weak. But now that I have a house, and bigger responsibilities I realize that when you have a man in your life he should be there to make your life easier not harder.
He should alleviate some of your stress, and in turn you should be there to support him as well. I never expected much so I never got much. So because of that I was wrong, but now that I have grown I understand that as a woman you must not give in to your feelings of loneliness, and sexual urges before you know that the person that your dealing with is truly in your best interest. In other words they care about your well being, and want to give not just take, they care about your happiness, and your safety. Someone who will go out of their way to let you know that you are not alone in this world, and that they have your back.
Too many woman allow a man to get something for nothing. They cook and clean for them, open their legs for them, give their love, and affection away for what? for sexual gratification? For someone to warm your bed at night? If that's all you need ladies get a Heated Blanket and a Vibrator! I have been guilty of these things in the past, and on a Serious Note just 5 months ago I gave my all to someone who did not deserve or appreciate my time or affection but it STOPS NOW!
No matter how bad it gets I need to understand that my Priorities comes first over my Loneliness, and need for affection. I'm a woman not a girl anymore, and its well over due that I Say What I want from a man in a realistic context and not allow the Bullshit to continue. A guy needs to put in work to be with me, but I'm also willing to put in the same amount of work in return. Ive never had a problem giving my all and making sure that the person I'm with is happy. My only problem was in the midst of giving him my all I forgot about what HE should be giving to ME!
This is my Theme song for 2011! Ladies please pay attention to the lyrics below!
LIL MO & LIL KIM "TEN COMMANDMENTS"
Ladies, I wrote me a manual
How to keep your man
These rules you must follow
My 10 commandments
(Oo, oo, oo)
Let me break it down for you
Rule number 1
Never give him some on the first night
Rule number 2
Never bring your man around your crew
Rule number 3
Never call him first let him call you
Rule number 4
Never let him know your every move
Rule number 5
Never tell him about your past
How many other lovers you've had?
How many other lovers went bad?
Make no exceptions
If you want it to last
Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more
Rule number 6
Never mix business with pleasure
Rule number 7
Never move in unless he tell ya
Rule number 8
Never tell your friends about your bedroom
Rule number 9
Never let them know his shoe size
Rule number 10
Should have been rule number 1
'Cos If you give in on the first night
Make sure you ride that thing
Scream his name
And he'll be yours for life
'Cos you know your excited
('Cos you know your excited)
And you just can't fight it
And you wanna tell all your friends
But you've got to make sure loves intact
Because you want him to keep coming back
Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more
Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more
There's never no such thing as giving him to much
'Cos if you want to wed with your man
You can never give enough
'Cos you get excited
And wanna tell everybody
But you've got to make sure
Loves intact
Then it will help you bring him back
I've been in this thing for years
It made me an animal
Me and my girl
Mo wrote you'll a manual
Step by step booklet for you to keep
Your man in his place
And out the next girls' face
Rule number 1
Never give a dude money
Girl, don't be a dummy
Let the homie, stay bummy
'Cos once he start, he won't stop, that's it
And all he gonna do is spend it on the next chic
Rule number 2
Before you give him some
It's your way
Shoppin', a new car
That's what I call foreplay
Now don't get me wrong
Respect your man
But if dude gets out of line
Then check your man
Rule number 3
Should have been rule number 1
Never go down
Till he licks you round
Your neck, your back, your pus** and a** crack
Rule number 4, 5 and 6
Very important lessons
Keep your man guessing
Never let him see you stressing
And if you love heres 7, 8, 9 and 10
Never ever, ever mess with his friend
See if you follow these
You'll have mad bred
To breaka house on the beach
And mad trips to jacob
He'll be home at night cooking you a steaka
And he'll keep coming back for more
On the wake up
Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more
Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more
Understand
If you want to keep your man
And you want to hold on to him
Keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
Ha, you got it
Ha, keep coming back for more
Understand
Keep your man
My command
More and more and more
More and more and more
MUCH LUV XOXO @{~~~~~~
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