FUN TIMES IN CALI

So recently I have decided to start going out more so I can network and make bigger moves, and so I joined some new groups on MeetUp.Com to find out what events were going on in my area.  Well... this week there was a YouTube event and I decided to go and I had so much fun!  I even was able to get info for a second music event as well for the same week.  Recently it has been very difficult for me to focus on my goals because so many things are going on in my mind.  I miss my Mom, and my family, and most of all I miss having friends to go out with.  Even though I'm originally from LA all my best friends are on the East Coast.  I have been trying to meet some cool people out in Cali but it just hasn't been the same.  I always feel however there is a solution to every problem so I took some time to look within and ask myself what could I do to make things better, and the answer I came up with is, JUST TRY HARDER! LOL

When you move around a lot growing up its hard to form long lasting relationships because you never have any stability.  I always moved back and forth from New York to California throughout my adolescent years so my friends are all spread out and that's really frustrating, but such is life.  If you want something to change you have to put forth the effort and make it happen so here I am making it Happen!  I have several other networking events to attend this week, and I feel good about my progress.  As long as you keep moving forward you can Never Fail!

Until Next Time....

I PUBLISHED MY FIRST BOOK! (THE ANTIDOTE)

So... I finally published my first E-book on Amazon!  It was a long time coming but I'm proud the day is here.  After this Series I will be releasing my Erotica Series so go check it out and give me your honest feedback!


Much Love,
XoXo
MizzBlaze

PREFACE:

Love is often times found in the strangest places, and under the most profound circumstances. Candy has managed to deceive everyone around her into thinking that she is a strong woman who doesn’t need anyone to survive, but in her heart she yearns for true Love and affection. She secretly craves acceptance, and most of all she wants to escape her dark filled past, but bad habits are hard to break.

One evening a mysterious man walks into her life and appears to offer the solution to all her problems, but her knight in shining armor has a dark past of his own, and Candy finds herself trapped in a whirlwind of lies, murder, and betrayal. Will she have the courage to break out of the darkness before it’s too late? Or will she find herself as another statistic?

This is not your average love story filled with romance and happy endings. This is a story of Pain, Strength, and Vindication where nothing is as it appears to be.

Click Here to Download: THE ANTIDOTE Pt. I: Not Your Average Love Story

ADVICE FROM A MAN...

Someone sent me this in an email. What do you think?? Agree or Disagree??

ADVICE FROM A MAN....

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

5 . Slower is better.

6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then, Heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. (Tell it like it is!)

8. Don't settle.

9. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

14. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

16. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.

17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

19. Never let a man define who you are.

20. Never borrow someone else's man.

21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

23 . All men are NOT dogs.

24. You should not be the one doing all the bending compromise is a two way street.

25. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.

27. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted.

29. Never move into his mother's house.

30. Never co-sign for a man.

--Anonymous ---

GROUPIE LUV!

You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv!

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them. Whether it’s because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them?

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible."

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love.

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a plutonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not!

There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. 

I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more.

~Be Safe & Much Luv~

XoXo

IS YOUR WOMAN CHEATING?

Fellas: Do you have a feeling your woman is cheating on you? Most of the time there are blogs, and advice columns out there for women, but what about the men? Today I want to focus on helping out all the fellas.... I feel its time for the men to have some feedback this time around! The world would like us to believe that all men are dogs, but I personally dont agree. There are men out there that are sensitive, compassionate, and loving. Men can get hurt in a relationship just as much as a woman can. Lets look at some signs of a cheating....WOMAN!

1. A sudden loss of interest- She used to enjoy going out in public with you and your friends, but now all of a sudden she just wants to stay in the house. Why? Is there something she wants to hide?

2. Change in physical appearance- Your lady used to dress average on a daily basis, but now shes wearing new dresses, new perfume, and all of a sudden her hair, and make-up are flawless! Why the sudden change? She says she just wants to start looking better for you? Hmmm yeah ok!

3. Strange phone calls- Is your girl starting to get phone calls late at night? Or all of a sudden her phone is on vibrate, and then when she goes to answer it she leaves the room or goes outside to answer the call. *side eye* Why? Whats going on? Could it be her "Boyfriend No. 2"

4. Missed Calls- Every time you go to call her she is suddenly unavailable, and when she calls you back she always has some lame excuse like, "My phone had bad reception so I didn't get the call" or "I forgot my phone over my girlfriends house" Hmmm yeah ok! *side eye*

5. Secrecy- Does it seem like all of a sudden your girlfriend got a new job working for the F.B.I? When you ask her questions about her day, or what she has planned for the weekend she starts giving you short strange answers. Woman are generally smooth in covering their tracks when it comes to cheating, but if you know your woman well enough you can pick up on her mood changes... you just need to pay attention.

6. Sexual Appetite- Does your girlfriend seem to have a loss of sexual energy? She used to want to have sex all the time, but now she could care less? OR She has the same sexual appetite, but now she is trying new an extra freaky tricks in the bedroom that she has never tried before? Hmm.. Could her new man be teaching her something that your not?

7. Spending more time with her girlfriends- Is your partner going over her girlfriends house a lot more all of a sudden? Or she has she met some new friends, that she wants to spend her time with? Could it really be a guy? Hmm (Also be aware of the Cover Girl) This is a girlfriend who always seems to come to your partners side to justify her sudden change in Social Networking! *side eye*

8. Increase in Arguments- Is she arguing with you more than usual, and then storming out the house? Are the arguments about small meaningless things, that usually didn't bother her before? Could it be an excuse to leave and spend some more time with her boo? Hmm Watch out!

9. Working Late- Is your girlfriend telling you she needs to spend more time at the office? All of a sudden she has projects that require her to stay extra long hours, and maybe even spend the night at a hotel or girlfriends house? Hmm yeah ok!

10. Guilty Conscious- Sudden gifts come out of no where, and for no particular reason. Candle light dinners, or trips out to eat just because. Sometimes she could just want to be nice, but sometimes it could be signs of a guilty conscious!

---Although these signs can go either way for a man or a woman, I wanted to take sometime to focus on the fellas since they always get neglected!---- XoXo MizzBlaze

COMMITMENT PHOBIA!

Do you get nervous when the person your dating starts saying things like, "I Miss You" "I Cant Stop Thinking About You" or " Lets be Exclusive” ? Do you find yourself always running for the heels every time someone says the words, "I Love You” ? If this sounds like you, or someone you know You Or that other person may be suffering from....

COMMITMENT PHOBIA! 

Commitment Phobia is very common. In fact most people have it and don’t even realize it because it’s embedded in their subconscious.Let’s face it, everyone is scared of being hurt by love and that’s ok because fear is a part of life, but if this fear is stopping you from experiencing the great things that love has to offer than you may want to do a bit of self reflection. Fear is an emotion that usually comes from past experiences.

If you have witnessed a string of negative relationships from your family or friends for example you could unconsciously be running from love because you don’t want to endure the same heart breaking end results. You could also build Commitment Phobia from opening up to someone in the past, and becoming deeply wounded or betrayed because of it, but just because you are afraid of something doesn’t mean you can’t overcome it. 

Love has many more positives than negatives. Think back to the beginning of your relationships, and not the end. Remember when you couldn’t wait to see that person after a long day of work... Just the thought of their face or the sound of their voice would make you feel so overwhelmed with joy and happiness. That is the image you should hold in your mind when you think of the word LOVE, because love is about joy and happiness not pain and heartbreak. 

As in all situations you have to take the good with the bad, and you should always evaluate your past relationships so you can learn from them and grow, but you should never dwell on the past or become so obsessed with it that it holds you back from your future! Commitment Phobia may be a part of life, but it does NOT have to be a Permanent Life Threatening disease without a Cure.Real Love Can Heal a Broken Heart! So think happy thoughts, and you will find the one who makes you feel happiness for eternity!

MIND GAMES

Has someone ever accused you of playing, "Mind Games" ?? Or have you felt that someone has played "Mind Games" with you in the past? If so lets talk about why this happens, and also discuss some of the causes behind it.

It has been said that when you first meet someone you don’t really meet them... you meet their "Representative" I.E. the person they want you to meet, the person they want to present to you. As time goes on however you get to see the real man/woman behind the mask. The question is why do people play games? Why not be real from the start, don’t they understand the truth always comes out? The answer unfortunately is NO! Insecurity, Past Commitment Issues, and Fear causes allot of people from opening up and being themselves, especially in the beginning of the relationship, and therefore putting up a "Front" is natural for them. It’s somewhat of a protection or barrier against being hurt.

Some people play mind games for different reasons however. Mind Games can be used not just as a barrier but as a mechanism to deceive and manipulate for someone’s own personal gain. In some situations mind games are played to build a reputation as a player, or playette, pimp or gigolo. For whatever the reason mind games are still wrong because they give a false perception of the real person, and they usually end up causing pain, and frustration for the other party/'(s) in involved.

So now that we have gone over the reasoning behind these games lets look at how to decipher the games from the truth! It has been said before, and I’m going to say it again... “Actions Speak Louder Than Words!” If you are unsure of someone’s true intentions watch their actions, and not their words. See if they can back up everything they are verbally expressing to you. Do their actions appear sincere? If not you may have to question their true objective.

The second way to see past all the games and lies it to have “Patience.” Never rush into anything too fast because it can cause you to be blinded from the truth. Take your time, sit back and WATCH. Keep your eyes, and ears wide open. Time will tell if the person you are with is playing games, or if they truly mean what they say.
XoXo Written by, MizzBlaze

FINDING A NEW LOVE

Out with the old and in "With the New" Its time to get over that past relationship, and put yourself back on the market. The problem is it’s been so long that you don’t know where to start. Well have no fear; here are some steps to get you moving in the right direction.

The first step of finding a new love is to not look for one, yes I said it "don’t look"! After you get out of an old relationship use the time you have for self reflection. Go out and enjoy life! Start a new hobby, take some walks in the park, maybe adopt a new pet, but don’t go looking for love, instead let it find you. When you start on your journey towards self reflection you find new and exciting things to do that make you happy. When you are happy and in a state of bliss you will attract other people of like mind towards you. This is one of the first steps in meeting the right ONE.

After connecting with a new potential love make sure you take the time to build up your friendship, don’t rush into anything too soon. Love is always worth the wait so you have plenty of time to take the relationship to the next level. In the meantime just enjoy each others company, and start to learn about the person’s likes, and dislikes. You can share your dreams, ambitions, and fantasies together. This builds up a healthy rapport so that you can learn one another on a deeper level. Save intimacy until you feel it’s the appropriate time for the both of you, remember rushing into something too soon can ruin the connection so take it slow. 

Remember when building a new relationship take heed to not bring up your past partner or past relationship issues. This can hinder or tarnish your future relationship, that’s why self reflection is so important. Make sure that you have cleansed yourself from your past baggage so that when you go into a new connection you are fresh to experience all that love has to offer! Your past is your past, learn from it and move forward!

HOLDING OUT

 So you met someone new and your wondering...

HOW LONG SHOULD I HOLD OUT??

Well that all depends on you, and the vibe that you’re having with the other person. When starting a new romance you should take some time to talk, and get to know each other on a mental level before you bring sex into the picture. Holding out sometimes can be frustrating especially if you are getting close with the person and you are highly attracted to them, but good things are worth the wait! So...What's the Rush?

There are plenty of things you can do romantically in the beginning of your relationship to feel the person out before you take it to the next level. The best way to keep it subtle is to stay in open spaces. Don’t spend alone time together for the first couple months if you are trying to take it slow. If you find yourself one on one with the person you may not be able to hold back, so instead do things that can build your relationship, and friendship in an open setting. You and your potential partner can go out to events that you both enjoy such as, Poetry Readings, Sporting Events, and Carnivals. 

Try not to focus on the physical, but instead grow your understanding of the other person’s likes and dislikes. What makes them tick? What annoys them the most? These are all important questions you should be asking yourself in the beginning of your courtship. When you start to learn a persons moral values, and beliefs it makes it easier to see if you want to go further with them.

The best thing about building a friendship first is the romantic stimulation that comes along with the anticipation of the wait. Every night you are thinking about how it would be to have that person in your arms, and wondering how it would be to take it to the next level with them. All the thoughts and feelings in conjunction with your discipline build for a greater experience. When you take the time to get to know someone on a mental level it makes the Sex that much more Explosive because there are true Feelings, and Passion behind the Stimulation. You are connected on a Mental, and Physical level. So Holding Out can bring much more than A Greater Understanding, it can also bring a Higher Level of Sexual Gratification. 

So there’s no need to Rush! Holding Out Is a Good Thing!

GOING DUTCH

 

Proper Dating Etiquette 101!

Often times when you have your first date it can be very uncomfortable because there are a lot of uncertainties. You are unsure of the persons motives, intentions, personality, and moral up bringing. If the “Male” was raised to be the head of household for example, he will usually bring a more old fashioned way of thinking into the relationship. If he was raised in a household where the woman was the bread winner however, he may have a more modern way of thinking. Either way it’s important to "Communicate" with the person you are going out with prior to your date in order to have a general idea of what to expect. On a first date it’s typical that the initiator will pick up the bill. However this is not always the case. It goes back to the person’s upbringing, and their way of thinking.


 If you are unsure about how things are going to go when the bills comes to the table the best thing to do is to have a brief conversation prior to going out on your date. It may seem slightly taboo to some, but in the end it’s effective. You will not be sitting at the table staring at one another wondering what the other person is thinking when the check arrives. Going Dutch is traditionally for people who are not romantically involved or for new couples feeling each other out, but everyone has their own opinion on splitting the bill. 

Some men find it insulting if a woman offers to pick up the tab or pay her own way at the end of the date, whereas some men find it very attractive, and invigorating. Stereo-typically the man is expected by society to be the one to pick up the bill on a romantic date, but "Going Dutch" is becoming more common. There are some situations where the woman will pay for the entire meal herself because she feels empowered to do so. Whatever the case may be there is no right or wrong way to handle the situation. The most important factor is the mutual understanding between both parties. 

Communicate with the person you are going out with, and express how you feel about dating. It should not be an aggressive or pushy conversation. Keep it simple, and upbeat. You can say something like, “I can’t wait for our first date Friday night! It will be great to spend some one on one time with you. (pause) I was wondering, what are some of your dating dos and don’ts? Do you feel it’s more acceptable to go “Dutch” on a first date? Or do you prefer to be the one picking up the bill?” Opening up the conversation this way is non offensive, and it can lead to a much needed dialogue that can help you to better understand the person you’re going out with. Having this discussion prior to the date will allow you to feel more relaxed on that first night. After all you will have enough things on your mind, why add to the pressure? 

 HAPPY DATING!!

GROUPIE LUV!

You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv! 

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them.

It could be because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them? 

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible." 

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. 

Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love. 

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a platonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. 

So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not! There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. 

If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. 

I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more. 

~Be Safe & Much Luv~ XoXo

REALITY TV ENCINO, CA EDITION!

So this past week they finally started taping for the Reality Show I auditioned for last month. I had so much fun, and I met some new friends as well. I was in Encino, CA and the weather was beautiful.

In case your wondering why I look like a female Steve Urkel its because I had to change up my appearance for the show! LOL

I cant talk much about the project yet, but what I can tell you is, its a new dating show coming out on CBS so make sure you stay tuned because I will update you when I get more info! Watch my video below and leave me a comment! XOXO much Love

MizzBlaze

THE FEMALES TEN COMMANDMENTS

Many people ask me why I'm single, and honestly there is no simple answer. I have given so many guys chances recently, and in the end it was a big FAIL! I'm not trying to say all the guys I ever dated were bad, I'm speaking on the last couple of years. I did have several Good Men in my life, and when I had them it was me who messed up. I was not mature enough to handle a serious relationship back then, and I think a part of me was afraid that the relationship was too good to be true, so I purposely sabotaged it.  

Now that I have matured and I'm ready to be open, and take a chance at Love it seems all I meet are lazy guys who want Sex with no commitment or Sex without putting in any work at all. No courtship, no dinners, no being there when your car breaks down, just Sex and then they go about their business. Maybe I'm not getting out enough or maybe I need to travel more because lately I've been working a lot and I haven't had the chance to move around, but Damn it seems the older I get the worse my selection of "Men" become.

I know I am partially to blame because I have not always laid down "The Rules" AKA said exactly what I expected or what I wanted. I just hung out with them, and did the whole independent woman routine. My mom raised me to never depend on a man so I rarely asked for help. A part of me thought it would make me look weak. But now that I have a house, and bigger responsibilities I realize that when you have a man in your life he should be there to make your life easier not harder. 

He should alleviate some of your stress, and in turn you should be there to support him as well. I never expected much so I never got much. So because of that I was wrong, but now that I have grown I understand that as a woman you must not give in to your feelings of loneliness, and sexual urges before you know that the person that your dealing with is truly in your best interest. In other words they care about your well being, and want to give not just take, they care about your happiness, and your safety. Someone who will go out of their way to let you know that you are not alone in this world, and that they have your back.

Too many woman allow a man to get something for nothing. They cook and clean for them, open their legs for them, give their love, and affection away for what? for sexual gratification?  For someone to warm your bed at night? If that's all you need ladies get a Heated Blanket and a Vibrator! I have been guilty of these things in the past, and on a Serious Note just 5 months ago I gave my all to someone who did not deserve or appreciate my time or affection but it STOPS NOW! 

No matter how bad it gets I need to understand that my Priorities comes first over my Loneliness, and need for affection. I'm a woman not a girl anymore, and its well over due that I Say What I want from a man in a realistic context and not allow the Bullshit to continue. A guy needs to put in work to be with me, but I'm also willing to put in the same amount of work in return.  Ive never had a problem giving my all and making sure that the person I'm with is happy. My only problem was in the midst of giving him my all I forgot about what HE should be giving to ME!



This is my Theme song for 2011! Ladies please pay attention to the lyrics below!

 LIL MO & LIL KIM "TEN COMMANDMENTS"

Ladies, I wrote me a manual
How to keep your man
These rules you must follow
My 10 commandments
(Oo, oo, oo)

Let me break it down for you
Rule number 1
Never give him some on the first night
Rule number 2
Never bring your man around your crew

Rule number 3
Never call him first let him call you
Rule number 4
Never let him know your every move

Rule number 5
Never tell him about your past
How many other lovers you've had?
How many other lovers went bad?
Make no exceptions
If you want it to last

Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more

Rule number 6
Never mix business with pleasure
Rule number 7
Never move in unless he tell ya

Rule number 8
Never tell your friends about your bedroom
Rule number 9
Never let them know his shoe size

Rule number 10
Should have been rule number 1
'Cos If you give in on the first night
Make sure you ride that thing

Scream his name
And he'll be yours for life
'Cos you know your excited
('Cos you know your excited)

And you just can't fight it
And you wanna tell all your friends
But you've got to make sure loves intact
Because you want him to keep coming back

Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more

Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more

There's never no such thing as giving him to much
'Cos if you want to wed with your man
You can never give enough
'Cos you get excited

And wanna tell everybody
But you've got to make sure
Loves intact
Then it will help you bring him back

I've been in this thing for years
It made me an animal
Me and my girl
Mo wrote you'll a manual

Step by step booklet for you to keep
Your man in his place
And out the next girls' face
Rule number 1

Never give a dude money
Girl, don't be a dummy
Let the homie, stay bummy
'Cos once he start, he won't stop, that's it

And all he gonna do is spend it on the next chic
Rule number 2
Before you give him some
It's your way

Shoppin', a new car
That's what I call foreplay
Now don't get me wrong
Respect your man

But if dude gets out of line
Then check your man
Rule number 3
Should have been rule number 1

Never go down
Till he licks you round
Your neck, your back, your pus** and a** crack
Rule number 4, 5 and 6

Very important lessons
Keep your man guessing
Never let him see you stressing
And if you love heres 7, 8, 9 and 10

Never ever, ever mess with his friend
See if you follow these
You'll have mad bred
To breaka house on the beach

And mad trips to jacob
He'll be home at night cooking you a steaka
And he'll keep coming back for more
On the wake up

Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more

Girl, you got to understand him
If you want to keep your man whipped
Follow my 10 commandments
And he'll keep coming back for more
And more and more

Understand
If you want to keep your man
And you want to hold on to him
Keep your man whipped

Follow my 10 commandments
Ha, you got it
Ha, keep coming back for more
Understand

Keep your man
My command
More and more and more
More and more and more

MUCH LUV XOXO @{~~~~~~

WHAT IS SEXY TO YOU?

I went to the movies today to go see "For Colored Girls" which I might add is a very good movie.  My baby Omari Hardwick was looking extra sexy. I'm gonna have to ignore the part about him being a .... well I don't wanna ruin the movie! (side eye) LOL So anyway as I walking through the theater on the way to my seat I noticed several guys staring at me.  

Now, there's nothing wrong with guys looking at a female right? Well the problem was that most of these guys were on a date.  I looked around at the females in the theater, and I noticed that most of them were dressed down in outfits that in my opinion should only be worn around the house not on a date! I meanwhile had on my suede knee high boots, jeans, a black knitted shirt, with my hair, and nails done. In other words I was dressed to go out.

I never have understood how some females just let themselves go when they get a man.  Keeping yourself up both physically and emotionally is important in any relationship.  Now I know that men will always look, but they should never be lusting for another female when they are around you. Glancing is to be expected, but he shouldn't be fantasizing about another female, and wishing that he was with her instead of you.  Men are physical creatures and appearance is very important to them.  Just like we as females need affection, men need to feel appreciated too.  I personally feel its disrespectful for any female to go out on a date with her man, and not look her best.

All Im saying it to ask your man what is sexy to him.  Find out what turns him on, and make a point to switch things up every once in a while.  Smelling good is just as important as looking good! Some sweet smelling perfume is just as necessary as some heels, and a sexy dress.  I understand that sometimes you dont want to dress up, but its important to keep your man excited, and interested.  I dont expect every female to look extra sexy 24/7 but when you go out with your man you should make him happy to have you on his arm, and in return he should do the same for you.

Keep the relationship HOT in and out of the bedroom! Role Play, Weekend trips alone without the kids, and unexpected love notes to say you care are all important elements to keeping a relationship strong. 

How important is the one you love? What is Sexy to You?

XOXO MizzBlaze

I DONT BELIEVE YOU! AND IM DONE!

So as everyone may know I am getting over my Fantasy Romance with Joe! I talk about him all the time, so anyone who watches my videos or follows me on Twitter should know who he is. *side eye* Well anyway I am sick of trying to apologize to him. It’s obvious that he has moved on and its time for me to move on too. I already deleted his number and took down his picture from my wall. I received a text from him the other night that said, "Somethings will neva change I Love you and as we move along our paths in life stay strong and beautiful be wise baby your life will blossom keep growing" So anyway I deleted that message because I'm not allowing my feelings to get involved again. I pray that he is happy, and I will always love him forever cause I’ve known him since I was 5 years old, but you snooze you lose, and I wasn’t ready when he was so I just have to except that and let him go! *sigh*

One thing I don’t agree with is the fact that he said he loves me. I honestly don’t think he knows what love is. Or is it me that doesn’t know? I guess the verdict is still out on that, but anyway I feel when you love someone you show them, whether you love them as a friend or intimately. I have friends that live all over from New York, to Miami on out to California and I talk to them on a regular basis. Our distance does not stop us from talking on the phone or keeping in touch, but every time I call Joe he hardly answers and he doesn’t call me back till months later so how can he say he loves me? I don’t think that’s love at all! I believe he cares about me deeply but loves me NO! I don’t feel he loves me. When you love someone you check on them. You call them on a regular basis to say hello or you return their phone call when they call you!

As I’m writing this I’m thinking about my best friend Hamid who is locked up in California. I say I love him but I haven’t written him in months. So how can I talk about Joe being at fault when I am also at fault too? *sigh* Well I guess sometimes when you are overcome by your own emotions, personal situations, and feelings you don’t put the people you say you care about first in your life. Sometimes you can become selfish, and even egotistical, overwhelmed by your own thoughts and feelings. I have done this myself, so I guess its wrong for me to judge someone else. In my heart I know Joe loves me but I don’t want to focus on that because It will make me confused, and I need to move past him in order for me to grow. Being stuck in the past is no way to live. If he is meant for my future then it will be, but I can’t fantasize about it anymore, because it’s not healthy. So what’s the point of saying all this.... *side eye* Well I just had to vent, and purge this out my system.

"We gotta face it there'll be times that we let each other down. And on the days that you ain't feeling me, will you be able to stick around, Cause anything worth having is worth fighting for. If we really want this thing to work We gotta go to war"  ---Avant (When It Hurts)

FRUSTRATION CAN BE GOOD SOMETIMES!!

This past weekend I had planned to film Part 2 of my Project for "Luv On Blast" in Baltimore, MD. “Luv On Blast TV” is another section of my Relationship/Music venture. Well unfortunately a director that I found online turned out to be extremely unreliable and unprofessional, so I had to continue the project on my own. I have a camcorder but it was not equipped to do interviews so I just did the best I could. I drove the hour + drive on my own with faith by my side, and I handed out flyers, and networked with people. I was determined not to let my trip go to waste!

After I completed my networking, I researched different options to assist me in completing the interviews on my own. I found out that I needed a “Hot Shoe” attachment for my camcorder in order to attach the external microphone. I also priced Tripods for my camcorder as well, and I found out that everything I needed was relatively inexpensive.

Although it would be helpful to have someone there to lend a hand with the camcorder I can’t afford to wait around for anyone to push my dream!

My point in saying all this is….. When you have a Project that you feel Passionately about as I do with mine you cant wait around for a Team of People to work with you, you have to go out and make things Happen, and after that people will be Running Behind You to be a Part of What you have Started! I have learned to be A Hustler. Nothing in my life was ever given to me. I really believe my current project can become BIG, and therefore I have to push on without anyone’s help. I have learned so much through this lesson. I can now record my own videos, transfer the footage, edit them, and convert them on my own! Its time to make moves, and I’m up for the Challenge!

FRUSTRATION CAN BE GOOD SOMETIMES BECAUSE IT PUSHES YOU FARTHER THAN YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU COULD GO!!!

See You All Soon on TV!!!

XoXo
MizzBlaze

POWER OF COMMUNICATION

It's so easy to give up when things get hard, but in the end how will quitting benefit you? In any relationship whether it's intimate or platonic you will always have to learn how to communicate. Having the right amount of communication can determine whether you have a temporary relationship verses a long-term permanent one. Often times when we start a new union with someone we put up a defensive wall for protection. This is very common and somewhat necessary. In the beginning you never know what someone's true intentions are so putting up a temporary boundary can be a good idea, but be careful not to leave it up for too long...


Remember Communication is key!

KATT WILLIAMS VS STEVE HARVEY BEEF

Katt Williams Disses and challenges Steve Harvey pt.1



Katt Williams Challenges Steve Harvey ( Steve Harvey responds) pt2

SEVEN POUNDS (MOVIE REVIEW)

Has anyone gone to see Will Smith's new movie Seven Pounds? Well if you haven’t I suggest you go see it. I went last night unexpectedly with some new friends I met over the weekend and I absolutely loved it! The guy I was sitting next to said it was a "Chick Flick" and he didn’t like it, but honestly I think you have to go with an open mind. Will Smith did a wonderful job as always, and Rosario Dawson’s character was very heartwarming. I don’t want to give away the movie so I'll just say, the film will teach you a lot about life, love, and sacrifice.

Michael Ealy was looking scrumptious as always, and I couldn’t help but to make a loud moaning noise when he showed up on screen. I felt a little embarrassed but he is oh so fine, and I had no idea he was even in the movie! Too bad he didn’t have a sex scene in there as well, but anyway I think it was a really good movie and I recommend it to everyone. LOL

Shout Out to Sean & Lee for allowing me to tag along! :)

THE PRECIOUS GIFT OF LIFE

This past month a very tragic incident occurred. Jennifer Hudson's mother (Darnell Donerson), brother (Jason), and 7 year old nephew (Julian King) were all killed. I don’t want to go into detail about this occurrence. I would rather take this time to talk about the precious gift of life. This past June I lost my father to Cancer, so I personally understand how devastating it is to lose a parent. Sometimes we don’t understand or agree with the way things happen in life, but we have to keep moving on. As I look at these beautiful pictures of Jennifer and her mother I think of my mother. I am not always the best daughter. I must admit sometimes I can be a spoiled brat.

On Friday October 24th, my mother called me and asked if I would like to go see the movie "The Secret Life of Bees", with Jennifer Hudson, Queen Latifah, and Alicia Keyes. I brushed her off and said I’m busy! I have a lot of things I have to do this weekend so I don’t have time to go with you. As I’m sitting here at my desk I'm crying because unlike Jennifer I have the opportunity to talk to my mother on the phone everyday. I can run to her right now, and hold her in my arms. I know Jenn would give anything to have her mother and brother back in her life again. Life is so precious, and often times we take it for granted! No one is promised tomorrow, and it’s so important to tell the people in your life that you love them every single day! Never get off the phone or leave their side with out saying, "I- Love - You" because you never know what the future holds.

On November 10, 2007 Kayne West lost his mother to cosmetic complications. Something that should have been a simple procedure turned out to be deadly. I can’t imagine how Kayne must have felt when he got the news. You can tell they were very close. Whenever Kayne would take a picture, his mom was never far behind. I know Donda and Darnell are looking down on their children smiling with pride. Its so funny how no matter what you do your parents have unconditional love for you, or at least they should. I know for a fact my mother has sacrificed everything for me, and she loves me no matter what I say or do. With all my heart I want to make her proud of me.

I find myself even now going through my cell phone and pushing the send button to call my father, and just when I’m about to go through with the call I remember he’s not going to answer. I still haven’t deleted his number from my phone, and I don’t plan to either. It’s like as long as his name is there he’s not really gone. If I lost my mother I honestly don’t know if I would be able to breathe, because she is my life.

I send my prayers and blessings out to Jennifer and her family, and I also send out strength and love to Kayne and his family as well. I send out my condolences right now to everyone in this world who has ever lost someone they loved. Always remember they may not be walking on this earth with you any longer, but they are still with you in spirit. Your loved ones are in your heart, in your breath, in your soul, and in your thoughts. As long as you love them, they will never be forgotten and they will live on through you forever!

I LOVE YOU GUS! Thank you for making peace with me before you died. I’m so glad I got to tell you about some of my upcoming projects before you passed away. Just keep on watching over me. I swear I’m gonna make you proud one day!